Surprisingly uneventful.
The family is not talking much about Neko. That’s because we’re so focused on what needs to be done in the next 20 days or so.
We’re getting used to his absence by letting time pass while we’re focused hard on something else.
I know that, throughout the family, each of us is processing our grief in our hearts, while using our heads and hands to solve urgent matters.
Not to imply Neko was a burden, but taking his care and behavior out of the equation has noticeably simplified the moving logistics. We miss him, but his absence has also sent us back to Dragonfly less burdened than before.
When the time comes to stop, breathe, and notice his absence, we will also be a little bit healed already.
I think it helps that Shadow has remained at the Cottage while we’ve been camping out at Dragonfly. There have been no animals at all while we’ve been preparing for the move. When the cat and the fish finally make the move this weekend, it should seem like a gain, not a loss.
My family, I daresay, has figured out how to face death, and to grieve in healthy ways. The family unit does it better than any one individual within the family. A blessing.
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